If you know for a fact (proof of some kind) that a friend/acquaintance is cheating on another friend/acquaintance do/should you tell the cheater, the cheated or not get involved?
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Would you find yourself having a hard time confronting the cheater about his/her cheating and insisting he/she fesses up?
-Sometimes the cheater/cheated sees you as having an "opinion" after they/ve long forgiven the other half.
I did find it very hard to confront the cheater, telling your friend they are doing something that is wrong and giving them an ultimatum does not feel good.
It was awkward for a while, but all worked out in the end. We are still good friends.
That's great that it worked out like that. I once spoke up and supported the cheated, we talked about how things would be okay and he'd be better off anyway. Shortly later they "made up" and then I looked like the bad guy. ;-(
That is the exact thought process I was flirting with. Is it not our obligation when we are not super close with someone to tell them? Others may say wrong is wrong and it needs to be exposed? I appreciate your absolute answer.
I once hesitated to tell my brother-in-law about his wife's affair but eventually did. I was close with both of them but felt guilty watching him unaware. He was crushed and I helped support him through a seperation... only for them to resolve later
I don't think I would hesitate to tell a friend, but does it get hairy when you are only acquaintances with a couple? Or do you still tell?
That's a good question. What would you do?
My fear is after comforting the "victim", if they later choose later to reconcile then they may assume that you no longer respect the significant other or feel embarrassed that they returned after having been consoled. The friendship becomes awkward