Sexuality. When did you choose? Were you young? Old? After an interesting experience, or a disturbing one? My belief is that if one states that sexuality is a choice, then it is one they have obviously had to make - to be straight, or to be gay. So, I'm looking to see when people made their choices, cause I'm curious. I am aiming to write a hub, because whilst we can all say "it is" or "it isn't" there is no proof other than anecdotal evidence one way or the other. REGARDLESS of the results, I will write the hub (i just need some answers people). Please do not derail the question however.
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Wow. I like this answer. Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry I can't put more of what I'm thinking into words today - but thank you for this answer!
You are welcome. This would make a great forum. I will follow. Want to read your hub when published.
You wrote a wonderful answer, IDONO. It addresses far more than the subject of choice of sexual orientation, in a wise and human way.
Thank you for your insightful answer!
Thanks for your answer. Do you wish to elaborate further?
Li Galo - thank you for your answer. I smiled at your "got caught"!
Perhaps that is where the choice in the matter lies - whether to act upon it or not. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your answer, Silver Fish.
Moon Daisy - thank you for your thoughtful answer. What I am hoping to do is get people to think about it, regardless of the side they sit on, and consider it without the threat of debate. Thank you for your answer (not long at all!)
SidKemp - thank you for your insightful answer. This is what I wanted - reasons behind people's thoughts on this. Thank you for sharing
Thanks Jonny, and yes, it does answer my questions. Thank you for sharing
John - thanks for your answer. Perhaps you should make a site that does let you choose 'both" as an option!?
Interesting take on things. I think it stirs up thought. Thank you for your answer.
Thanks - your point that, whatever our inclinations, we choose our behavior and even how we direct our ttention and feelings is a good one. I am married. When my eye wanders, I sometimes just enjoy it, and others bring the energy home to my wife.
Thank you for your answer - Asexuality, and demi-sexuality are as valid as any sexuality, and I do hope you felt included here. Thank you for sharing.
Now that I have space for another few words: There are many types, even, of asexuality. Brahmacharya & tantra are different from each other & from celibacy, even when each involves no sexual contact with another person. I experiment with the
Theophanes, Ah if only everyone was "demi-sexual"... what a world that would be.
SidKemp, Experiment with the ...? Go on, please I'm very curious. :-)
:) - Thanks for sharing FatFreddysCat.
Neinahpets - Thank you for your answer, and I agree - over-thinking leads to unhappiness.
CantU - thank you for your answer. I like the way you thought about it.
I guess, what I want to do is get people to think about it - both sides of the argument - to look into the other side.
Thank you for answering!
I appreciate you asking and I know that you're aware of the debate your going to stir up and I'm sure that you're aware some people are going to be negative with you. So I say good for you in being brave; it should be talked about... in the open.
Thanks. I know, and I'm sick of the debate, so I thought lets put it out there, and have the chance for everyone (on HP at least) to answer without judgement. I'm genuinely curious, and promise to write the hub regardless of outcome.
Well I truly hope you get the answers your looking for because it is a topic that "everyone has something to say" about it but when the time comes to have a legitimate conversation about it; "mums the word".
Too true. I just realised I've asked a similar question before, but from a "go on -prove it to me" place. I'm not there anymore - I truly want to know. Hopefully people aren't too shy!
Who cares? I think the only real problem that gets in the way of this question is it's association with religion. I try to stay as far away from the topic as possible because people seem to be so heated on one end of the other. They can't accept the
Yeah, she is chasing me right now... Or maybe I'm letting her; who knows!
Duffsmom - thank you for your answer.
Cebu - thank you for your answer. I do not wish to get into a debate, I would just like to ask, if you wish to elaborate on your own choice? Only if you want to.
Thanks for your answer Lady Guinevere. I will post a link here when it is done (though, I would like to offer those who believe it is a choice sufficient time to answer also)