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Thank you. This is a good way of describing these relationships. Why be married if you will not commit or your spouse refuses to?
You've said it well Iburmaster.
Mmmwwell, if both spouses agree with this sentiment, then blessings to both. For my taste, "mine" sounds awfully possessive. The hands off my spouse part I get, the "your mine so do what I say" makes me cringe, even as I may alone in seeing this.
Of course it's possessive! That's the point! It's not "do what I say", it's "leave my spouse alone". If he isn't happy just with you, there is something wrong. He doesn't think you are worth it and isn't loyal. You deserve better.
very good reasoning
As a gay man of 41, I can assure you that marriage means as much if not more to many gay couples, given how hard a fighg it's proving to be and have been on the way to equality. As I stated in direct response, I feel an open marriage is an oxymoron.
Stanwshura, what I'm saying is that historically, many gay men have given their partners permission to stray. Meanwhile, most heterosexuals women would never agree to an open marriage. It's a female thing, which is why I used the term heterosexual.
I agree "she might tolerate his cheating only if she believes deep down he isn't going to divorce her and abandon the children. She may accept that he needs other women. It could be her libido is lower" This is often the case for rich & powerful
Thanks to you both for that feedback. It does affirm my unease that the *origins* of the institution of marriage were to guarantee that the father of any children doesn't stray, libido or not. Women do not have that option to say "s/he's not mine!"
It has been reported that Will & Jada Smith have an "open marriage".
As dashingscorpio said, it is a widely circulated rumor that Will and Jada have an open marriage. Recently when asked about it in an interview she said that she lets Will do whatever makes him happy.
Yes, those rumors have been around for many years. It seems to me that people who have open relationships see it as a given that they'll be cheated on and are trying to act as if they are instead giving permission rather than being offended.
I never heard that about them. It probably was blown out of proportion once again If she told him to do whatever makes him happy, I am guessing there is a lot more to this convo we dont know.
Express10, Maybe it's possible that "cheating" is not an automatic "deal breaker" for everybody. It wouldn't work for me but to each his/her own.
I didnt know that about their marriage