I often wondered if forgiveness was an option to men and women who cheat. Should they be forgiven if they are doing everything possible to try to correct the situation and are truly sorry for what they did. Or is that just their cover up being sorry so that their wife or husband will forgive them.
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Well what if the person who was betrayed never did anything different in the marriage. Gave it their all, was always the same, never stopped having sex, never stopped giving attention to the betrayer but they did it because they were away from home.
I enjoy reading your responses. Nice explanation Dashing. I have to say that I agree with you.
As I stated the example I gave is the ONLY instance I could see someone possibly forgiving their mate. If one gave their very best to the relationship and was cheated on it makes sense to end things. Your best is your best. There's nothing else to do
Married people nine times out of ten dont leave their partners so why hurt someone else because you are feeling neglected and shouldnt you have said that before you decided to have a fling.
Author Cheryl, Cheaters for the most part look to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other needs "on the side". Some people lack the (courage) to walk away from a known present into an unknown future.
Your point is valid about the sincerity of the apology. Some people try to "forgive" because they can't handle both the betrayal and divorce/breakup (all at once). It's important to take some time to decide if you can (really) forgive before saying.
I believe that forgiveness takes time and is not something that happens over night or over six months. I believe that anyone could pose to give a sincere apology if they wanted the other to feel it. Forgiveness in betrayal is hard.