A woman with hairy armpits, legs or chin wiskers is too similar to men. Most men want women who have hair on their head, no hair underarms, no hair on legs/arms, and no facial hair. Rough skin and calluses on a women's hands are also a turn off (for most men). Opposites attract!
Having said that it's completely up to the woman to shave or not shave. Your appearance is yours. I suspect it is other (women) that would weigh in against you. After all it is women who get caught up on who wore what on the "red carpet" of award shows, or "who wore it best?" when two celebrities are spotted in the same dress. Men are less competive with each other when it comes to their clothes, shoes, hairstyles, facial hair or haircuts. We generally buy what (we) like.