thank you strickly, he no longer needs or wants to be on a social network site now and leave his pc open for me to see what activity he has done. Your right he went 300 miles away to lessen the chance of getting caught (how wrong was he) we talked for days later and he told me from start to finish how it started how he got carried away and yes he didnt give a damn about anything or anyone at the time like you said he has serious determination he was going to do it anyway.
I truley believe he is sorry, he changed jobs to be nearer to home and went from night to days, we went to counselling, he gave me access to his bank accounts, phone, pc and day by day im getting stronger.
I have forgiven him but cant forget we both wanted to draw a line under it but im making things worse because its hard for me to move on, he said she was just sex (even though she said she had feelings for him) so he said it was easy to draw a line but i think im ruining things by keep bringing it up and having mental pictures. We have been together 16 years and have 1 daughter so i am prepared to forgive him for 1 mistake but i cant forget i hope time is on my side. 3 months ago i didnt want to wake up again now im a little more positive can 1 mistake be worth 16 years??? Will i get over this in time?? I hope so