I think the problems come in when people take it too far. Yes, I like being a girl. But I don't like being judged because of that fact. I don't take offense when a man (or a woman, for that matter) opens a door for me and I have no problems if a big, beefy dude offers to carry something heavy for me. I can change a tire, I can mow the grass and I can paint my house, even though those used to be primarily "man jobs."
I think there is a contingent of males who believe they are superior to women. To counter that, some women take feminism to an extreme that I believe is every bit as bad as the dudes who think I'm inferior because I'm a girl.
Yes, I think we deserve equality and no, I am not going to stop shaving my legs because some radical feminists think we do that to make men like us (or whatever their reasoning). Personally, I don't see why not everyone shaves their legs. Hairy legs tickle when the wind blows.