I think women have just as difficult of a time "understanding" men.
However in my opinion it's not really an "understanding" issue so much as both sexes expecting the other to (think and behave) as they do! Acceptance of individual and gender differences is the key.
Having said that there is no "one size fits all" for either gender. One woman may enjoy doing one thing while another woman enjoys doing another. The issues you may face in (your) relationship may not be an issue in someone else's. One has to preference what they say by stating: "The men/women (I) am attracted to or who are attracted to me are difficult."
"There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships; we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have."
Each of us (chooses) our own friends. lovers, and spouse.
We are who we are and ultimately everyone wants to be loved and appreciated for being who they are.
The beautiful thing about a door is it lets those who want in (in) and those who want out (out). No one is "stuck" with anyone.
We are always where we (choose) to be.