This is a married couple in their early 30's, married for 13 years. He was caught cheating a few years ago, and was forgiven by his wife, since he pleaded so much to her and swore it wouldn't happen again. Now he recently did it again, but doesn't want to leave. Says he will do anything she wants, is sorry. She wants him to leave now since he usually does what he wants anyway. What do you think?
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I agree with you...she had all his stuff packed and waiting for him to leave when he got home the first time. He cried the sad story, would come by to talk outside each day, he convinced her to give him another chance. He was only gone about 5 days.
In another comment you mentioned they've been a couple since they were teens. I imagine what keeps him wanting to stay married even if he weren't happy would be everything they built together including appearances. Teen couples rarely lasts forever.
You made a valid point. People who get married too young or before they figure out what they want/need in a mate for life are likely to have issues. Most guys are too immature for marriage in their early 20s. Odds are they were a couple as teens too!
You are both correct, they started out young. They were a couple as teens, and married at age 20/21.
Teen love rarely lasts a lifetime because they "commit" without much life experience of knowing who they are & what they want. A part of cheating involves fear of walking away from what one knows to enter the unknown. He's afraid but not "in love
Ouch! How did we "only children" get bashed on in this one?
My husband is an only child and I constantly tease him about the "world revolving around him". The comic strip is on the fridge.
Cheating by it's very nature means one does not observe rules or promises. A cheater may believe (if) they get caught "it's over" but most cheaters don't believe they (will) get caught. Cheaters focus their thoughts/desires on today and not tomorrow.
Iburmaster, she's had reason enough to leave him for other things, but cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage.
I entirely agree, lupine.
She had a feeling he was up to something, feels like a fool, doesn't want to be around him for the "next time". There is now a relief, that she can go on.
He did say she is the best thing he has. Didn't keep him from cheating, You do make sense, it's all been about him and his wants (buys what he wants, goes where he wants), now it's time for her to focus on what is best for her.
Now that you have explained that they were a teenage love couple. It's understandable why she is somewhat passive and has been willing to give him chances. He is all she has known. Divorce may also prove others were "right" about them being too young
Yes, there is no honor left. Nothing more to be said...actions are stronger than words.
JT, Do you really believe there can be former smokers, drinkers, and drug users but cheaters have no (choice) but to cheat for the rest of their lives? Or is that just a (protection statement) or rule to keep one's self from taking another chance?
Jeff, he claims to love his wife very much and doesn't want to be without her, admits he was selfish and screwed up, and again, claims it won't happen anymore. Same story.
Dashing... Everything you have mentioned has a very high relapse percentage. Unfortunately, yes once a cheater, they will probably do it again.