Very often you see online dating profiles (usually women), which proclaim they are (looking) for someone who is "ready to settle down" or is "marriage minded". Is finding someone who wants to get married (period) just as rewarding as dating someone who suddenly realizes (you) are "the one"?
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Great analysis. I believe the desire to marry should be driven by your (feelings for your mate) and not some arbitrary (time) one has determined. Statistically 80% of men and 87% of women eventually get married. Some do so multiple times! LOL!
What would you say to a friend, of mine, a woman, who felt it was her destiny to be married and have two children, but could not find a suitable man? She was driven by her feelings, but not by her feelings for a particular man.
SidKemp, Your friend believes in "destiny". Destiny means something is ordained to happen without much effort on our part. The law of attraction at work. I don't believe it replaces the law of action. :-) Not many of us live the life we imagined.
Dashing I wasn't clear. Destiny for her & me is inner guidance with passion to do a certain thing. What does a woman who feels called to, & passionate about, marrying & having two children do if she has no passionate feelings towards a go
Passion is a strong desire. Your friend may have to accept she may not get what she wants or it will not happen as she dreamed it would. She may marry a man who has two children or marries when older and adopts two children. Faith ignores (how).
Thanks, Dashing Scorpio: It happened - not as she believed it would. But this illustrates a point above, that marriage involves multiple passions, often conflicting ones.
Ahh but people change their minds as was in my case. I had told the world "I'm never going to get married!" (before I met my wife). LOL! I think (who) you are with determines what you want most of the time.