For those people who are pro-gay marriage, which parent would you have rather never known – your mom or your dad?
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Thanks - i hope that the above helps dispel some prejudicial myths. We are all hopefully learning and growing, and such writing will go a long way in people's learning of what is- to them- an unknown quantity
As a gay man, with very little social or family life, your reply has been eye-opening and heart-warming.... great education for me, thank you.
You are both very welcome. I'm glad I could be of service!
Should we eliminate artificial insemination for heterosexual women? After all, they give birth to children who will likely never know the identity of their biological mother and/or father.
And many actually KNOW who their biological mothers or fathers are because they were raised knowing them. Many, many, many gay and lesbian people have children from previous heterosexual marriages and relationships.
I am a man who grew up in a single mother household and I know of other guys who did as well. I have never heard of any parent teaching their child it's okay to sleep around. I had coaches and other male mentors and we went church most Sundays.
Single Mom of 4 sons, here. Single-gender atmosphere? natural upbringing? It was NOTHING I DID or DIDN'T do, to have 4 hetero-sons & TWELVE grandchildren!! That's just the way it was and IS! Been sleeping? "Gay" is NOT by choice or upbringing!
My father was raised by his mother, grandmothers, and aunts. There are few men that could even begin to measure up to him as a man.
I really appreciate your comment: "People against gay marriage would help their cause so much more if most of them weren't insane."
This question indicated no bigotry. It was a simple inquiry. Your response is rather harsh, isn't it?
So-called heterosexuals, having full reign on the institution of marriage and child rearing all these years gave us such lovely things as rampant abuse, broken homes, dysfunctional families, and a surging divorce rate. There's a standard for ya.
Stating that same-sex parents automatically harm their children isn't bigotry? I thought my response was polite compared to what was deserved.
First reaction of mine to the question was 'oh for gosh sake'. Then when not in the heat of the moment answered the question. First reactions sometimes aren't the best ones to go with. But I do also see you point.
It was my first reaction and second reaction and current reaction even now...and that's not an excuse, I am sure your diplomacy is the better way to go, but I'm just tired of it all and am mostly out of politeness.
Interesting that it matters less to people if children are abused by parents that are allegedly heterosexual or if it is a girl who is the one abused. No outrage over that.
All and any sort of child abuse is an outrage and sickening. If it happens within a single sex marriage/relationship, it only seems more outrageous as it justifies the predudices others feel about such relationships - more fuel to the homophobic fire
But it's not about the physical casing, it's a bout the energy each person contains. There's more feminine energy in some people than in others like masculine energy. Each person plays a roll.
The justification for gay marriage is that they are exactly the same as you. Of course they care as much about their children as you do. It is only your bigotry which imagines differently, which is disgusting and deserves nothing but derision.
I totally agree with you Carol!!
I agree with junkseller. They are people like you and me. They hvae intestines and hearts and a mind a feelings and with those feelings they feel love - if it can be shared with a child who has no parents or 1 parent, they're doing something beautifu
Its about the thoughts or ideas that will be planted in the child's mind. What kind of thoughts will they plant?
Sri T, those are presumptions in your mind. You think they will be "teaching" the children "bad" things. Talk to gay people. You will find your presumptions are ill-founded.
Sri - if you mean - will gay parents make their kids gay? No. It's not like that. If it was - I'd be straighter than a ruler - I have hetero parents, and 7 hetero siblings, a lot of hetero friends...and then there's me - gayer than a rainbow. :)
Here is my answer. My parents divorced when I was very young and I grew up without a father or step-father. I turned out alright!
I don't know what the bad things are jonny. I have no presumptions. One person told me they would teach both straight and gay lifestyles. It's up to them.
Carol, Very "Special," YOU believe love of mom&Dad is BEST in raising kids.My sons had NOT the "option" to "imagine" life w/o Dad.He died when they were babies. Might U be so kind as to "guess" how they became well-adjusted, successful, beloved m
Do you heterosexuals really marry only to breed? Are your relationships really so debased as to just be spaces for sex and procreation?
I know better and know that they are not---at least not the heterosexual marriages I have witnessed.