Love can be based on several elements in a relationship. It can be broken down to a chemistry attraction, leading to loving the personality with it. But, I do understand your question and that's when you need to see the difference between conditional and un-conditional love. A mother and child have an unbreakable bond in which, love does really exist. It would be crazy for someone to deny that. But in the case of loving the bf/gf/husband/wife.. it can be conditional or unconditional. This completely depends on the circumstances. Being IN LOVE and loving someone can be different also. In love is when you miss them when they go to the store. Wanting to snuggle often. Etc. (In no way am I defining love here.. just my interpertation) Loving someone.. could be caring enough to not argue about who's going to do the dishes to letting you know once a month. I believe love is real, physically and mentally. It's human nature.