Has marriage outlived its purpose? Its meaning? Cheating is rampant. Divorce is the norm. Split households with time-share parents is at least half the American family arrangement. Men marrying men. Women marrying women. Does it make sense to marry anymore. I am happily married 20+ years now, but do I want my children to marry? With marriage, my son risks losing all he works for to someone else. My daughters risk rearing their children solo. Divorce is expensive. Families are living apart. Has marriage become obsolete in today's close-nit world?
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I'm not sure what u mean by "the norm to [me]..." In my 1st marriage, I did everything to make it work. My wife refused sex, spending time w/me & would go weeks w/out a word. It is not always both people at fault. She never remarried. I did.
Human beings make mistakes in all areas of life including the selection of lovers and spouses. A divorce is nothing more than a public admission a "mistake" was mas made. Anyone happy in their 2nd marriage did not fail. They learned. Failures quit!
dashingscorpio, thanks for the kind words.
There were probably signs before you even got married. And no, I don't believe in those kind of mistakes. I'm always amazed when people say "I never noticed it before". Are we blind or just good at hiding our true selves?
In my 1st marriage there were signs prior thereto. I chose to ignore them. My bad! I learned from my mistakes & I have been happily married 20+ years now.
I understand and empathize with your thoughts. I worry about my children and their future romances. Marriage, like employment, seems less likely a long-term endeavor than in years past.
Thank you for your nice comment. I do need my wife; she is my best friend. And you are right, I lean on her and she does bring out the best in me.
I'm not certain that marriage makes a couple "better" people. Couples in long-term relationships especially ones where they live together also lean on one another. I do agree that marriage is here to stay. It's still considered the crowning glory.
That is a valid point about repeat divorces. I know several people who have remarried and divorced again. Very smart observation. I do not consider myself one stuck in traditions, but I agree a mom & a dad make for a better family than not.
I have finally published my story. It is called "Rhapsody & Remorse". Here's the link:
I received an email link from HubPages for Part II & III and I saved your link to Part I. I hope to read them all soon.
Very nice words. I cannot believe you will be without someone for long. My only advice for what it is worth: marry someone who is a best friend. Marriage based on sexual attraction or personal appearances tend to fail.