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You made some excellent points! However if it is the woman who (asks) a man out to lunch or whatever she should in my opinion be prepared to pay. Naturally some women believe they should always be "passive" and therefore they never ask a man out.
It has nothing to do with courtesy, passive or active. Nor IF you go out with a partner a female should not pay. This is aimed at EARLY "DATING" and building new romantic foundations. Splitting bills, regardless who asks is a KILLER for romance!
No woman should ask a man out and (expect) HIM to pay for (her) suggestion! Traditionally women were (passive) they waited to be asked out. Asking a man to take you out with the intention of him paying is the same as a child asking their parents.
We're moving away from the topic here. No one is suggesting IF a woman asks a man out she shouldn't pay for dinner. Nor is this about LTR, sharing etc. It's just about the initial dates of a simple drink or two, and a good way of creating romance!
JRohdesHarvey, The question is: "When dating, who should pay for the cost?" We haven't gone off topic unless (you assume) it is (always the man) who asks the woman out. My answer of (whoever asks pays) makes no assumption regarding gender.
"He's the one who is supposed to be doing all the work in the beginning of a relationship." Sounds a little outdated to me. I think whoever asks someone to go out should pay and no (one person) should do (all the work) if the interest is mutual. :-)