The goal is to have both of them be the same person. With over 7 billion people in the world the odds are in your favor there is more than one person who is everything you want in a mate and he would also see you as being "the one".
Don't force yourself to settle because of your (present) circumstances.
Having said that it is unlikely any man would ask you to marry him if he did not love you! Therefore if the man (you) love has proposed to you then it's because he loves you.
Oftentimes we have our own expectations of what it feels like to be loved. If someone doesn't do, say, or behave the way (we) want to be loved we feel "unloved". You have to know yourself well enough to know whether or not you can accept the (way) they love you and be happy.
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships; we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have.