If a man refuses to date women who are overweight and a woman refuses to date men who are shorter than her would you consider them to be shallow? or Would you view it as having specific preferences? What makes one person's (elimination process) "shallow" compared to another person's "preference"? Is it all in the eye of the beholder?
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peeples, I'm incline to agree with you! The more I think about it the word "shallow" is meant to belittle someone who does not share (our) same values or "preferences". Each of us is entitled to want what (we) want. That's what makes us individuals!
Dashingscorpio, YOU'RE right! I have been called elitist because I contend that education and socioeconomic status are HIGHLY & VERY important in a relationship. Education & money indeed offer wider choices in life.
IT ISN'T, my dear. Great answer!
mike102771, You made some valid points. However I do believe attraction cannot be overlooked. In fact it's cause for celebration that everyone does not want the same type of person in my opinion. However I do agree there is no need to be rude.
I would say there is probably both a social and a biological aspect to what we find attractive. The could be that at one time our attraction was part of the reproductive drive. Weed out possible weaknesses from the species.
This is actually a very good question. I never really analyzed this before. No one wants to be called "shallow," but I guess we all have our preferences!
Moms-Secret, I think a large part of being "individuals" means everyone is entitled to have their (own) "deal breakers" and "preferences". I think the term "shallow" implies there is a "universal list" that (everyone must accept) or be frowned upon.
I don't believe in anything universal including rules. Case by case is my way. I do love your topics scorpio...
Kenny MG, You made many valid points about society's expectations especially with regard to "What does he/she see in them?" and the next minute we're accusing someone of being "shallow". Any girl with a rich man is a "gold digger" We're so cynical!
Interesting! So basically someone who (sticks) to their "list of requirements" without making (exceptions) is shallow? Some might call them "disciplined" for knowing what they want and sticking with it! :-)
Perhaps someone who just focuses on physical appearance or money alone is considered shallow in this society.
NO, they AREN'T. Socioeconomic standing is one of the most important prerequisites & requirements as far as relationships go. NO FINANCE, well....NO ROMANCE. NOTHING'S WRONG w/money, honey!
I agree with you. EVERYONE has preferences! It's kind of arrogant for one person to say another's preferences are "shallow" because those traits are unimportant to (them). I advise people to "be true to yourself". If (you're) unhappy change!