For example, could you handle hearing that you are arrogant and self-serving, even though you think you are tolerant and open-minded? (Just one example among many.) Mind you, these are friends who are willing to be brutally honest. Can you handle the truth?
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I love this answer. Honest and loving - not brutal. Very well said, quildon.
Hahaha "I reserve the right to say "stop"..." Good points. If they're your real friends, I agree: you shouldn't be surprised by what they say, in my opinion.
Hello Ms. Dora,
I also doubt that you'd be surprised. You're our resident true blue person who always tries to "walk the talk" & we all appreciate it.
Good for you! You must be a very strong person. I used to believe, as you do, that the more truth the better. Sometimes you just need support, true or not quite . Maybe that's how to tell real vs. fake friends: supportive or not.
Poetic Philosophy, I say it's all in the delivery. However, you sound like someone who can take it either way. I love it!
I agree KenDeanAguado. Timing is so very important. A true friend will only say something because he/she thinks it is important. It may hurt the friend just as much to be honest, as it would be far easier to remain silent, rather than risk rejection.
Well said! Sorry for your unfortunate incident, but you have a good outlook on it!
Wow! That's harsh. I'm so glad you came out the other side with your optimism intact, CraftytotheCore. It would take e awhile to get to that point.
I STRONGLY disagree with someone saying someone is not a "real relative", by the way, because they were adopted. That's just wrong, ignorant , mean, and stupid, if not the opposite of the truth: they were CHOSEN and WANTED. [/Off soapbox for Crafty]
Hi Laura Schneider, Oh yes, I'm all about keeping my little delusions. They serve me well. That's the fun of hypothetical questions. We can simply wonder.... Can we really handle the truth? You stated that you can. That's awesome!!
Hi Lopez UnLeashed. As one philosopher said, "Know Thyself." The brutal truth is tough to hear, unless the delivery is thoughtful; however, you are strong to be able to look inside! The trick is in figuring out if the friend truly knows us.
SAVVY--Aha! Your response is about as solid as a blob of mercury skittering across a polished mirror! Subjectivity THIS vague and evasive will simply invalidate itself, seems to me.
Guilty as charged, moonfroth. You're not afraid to tell me the truth. That's why I like you.
And I you! In fact, you're so savvy if we weren't a couple of thousand miles apart, I'd ask you for a date.......though I'm quite sure there's a Mr. Savvy down the hall who would have something to say about that.
... not to mention, moonfroth, a Mrs. Clark, who would most certainly object. But I love that you would ask me out. We would both solve and disagree on life, into the wee hours -- over Scotch neat, and Grey Goose, on the rocks.
Hi moonfroth. Your comments are always fascinating. It is true that I have received the "brutal truth" from some who claimed to know me. In truth, they did not. But, my one true friend will tell me that which resonates - lovingly, as quildon said.
Tel me u luv me
I luv u
Cn I beleev u
That's another ques
do u luv me
lie dn & I'll show u
that's nt luv
oh, but WORDS r?
hmm, maybe I WILL lie dn........
Good one. For a minute there, I thought you were proposing. :) Anyhow, I see your point, but I maintain that one person knows me well enough to at least give me pause, though I do like Scarlett, and think about it
another day. Great poem, moonfroth