Just wondering if any of you really believe in monagamous relationships or is one or the other looking over the fence thinking the grass may be greener on the other side(metaphorically speaking)?Can there ever be true happiness with only one person forever and ever?
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I think you are so right. Thank you for your answer.
Glad to hear it Freddy. That is awesome ,17 yrs. and still in love!!! Good for you :)
fpherj48: I am the one being cheated on and so finally I just gave up and wondered if true monogomy really exists. I hope for it but have not yet found it. But I enjoy my freedom now. In the back of my mind I wonder if my true match will ever come.
let me clarify: I answer questions to our "readers," as opposed to you, personally. This topic is sensitive, not to mention very familiar to MOST of us at one time or another! People cheat or they don't. Has NOTHING to do with "WHO" they're with!
Nothing to do with Who they are with?really? Well I guess they don't really care about who they are with when they are cheating or they would think twice about it before they did it. We are human not animals but some think animal instinct takes over.
Pls understand my meaning. The person being cheated on, must NEVER blame themselves...bcuz.....a "cheater" will cheat on whoever their partner is. A cheater is a CHEATER. Often, they may LOVE U..but do not expect to get caught. Cheat =Selfish!
Yes cheat=selfish!!! Thanks!!
I totaly agree. Thank you for sharing your opinion!!!
Life and Luxury: I truly want to believe in monogomy but have not yet found it. You are very lucky indeed to have found your ture match. Hopefully I'll find my true match before I die. I am the monogomas one they guy is not. Very sad.
You will find your match. It took me many unhappy years before I found my husband. I got married at 37, when most people have already been married for many years. Don't give up. It is true that love happens when you aren't actively looking for it.
Thank you !!! I gave up a long time ago so it will be interesting to watch it unfold if indeed it ever does. I think it will be a great miracle if it does. Be grateful that you were blessed. :)
Very true! My parents are together for over 52 yrs. now but they haven't been all happy. So it just made me wonder if anyone is truly ever happy , and obviously some are.
Breatheeasy:(re: multiple wives)Maybe in Saudi Arabia or some Mormon cultures but not as a norm in the USA that I know of anyway. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
keep in mind moneyfairy that I mentioned 'history' of human culture. 'USA' history compared to the overall history of man makes it fairly new. And your research will illustrate that polygamous affairs extended well beyond Mormon & "Saudi" culture
Thank you Breatheeasy for your knowledge of the history of human culture. I guess I am not that aware of of alot of polygamous communities. Someone mentioned to me that thier are also cultures where woman have many husbands instead of the opposite.
women instead of men. true indeed moneyfairy. Ultimately, I do feel that monogamy can be accomplished. It resides mostly on the man though, based his nature. Science shows us that high testosterone levels relate to high sexual appetite, hence(men)lol
Because you are a good and decent person with morals and values and not all people are like that. I hope whoever you're with now knows what a treasure he has in you.
Well we are not animals we are human and I beleive we have the choice to be monogomus or not. I'd prefer if more people were monogomus, but haven't found that to be true yet. So you are lucky if you have experienced it. But it seems the exception.
What a great well thought out answer. Thank you very much for answering. much
That's the key respect for another persons feelings and honesty to tell the truth if it's not working ,instead of going behind someones back and hoping not to get caught,but eventually do and cause a lot of pain or some just want their cake and eat .
last statement very literal and very very funny JThomp42
Thank you Breatheeasy3.
@Breatheeasy: I wondered if you were commenting on the cake and eat it too satetement or the fertilizer BS comment? But thanks for replying, appreciate your comments.
I totaly agree. I have recently spoke with people who have been in long term relationships and they all say they don't believe in cheating as they love only ea. other and that's how it should be. If one is that unhappy why stay?Be honest,don't cheat.