What are the 10 reasons why people should wait until their mid-30s to marry and use their 20s
as a relationship exploration period?
The 20s are a time of relationship exploration. The 20s are not for marriage. The 20s are a time for self, career, and/or relationship exploration. Furthermore, it is the 20s that should be a time for dating, NEVER the teens as the teenage years are too young to be in a relationship. The mid-30s is the proper time for marriage as at that time, a person is self-assured/mature, lived life, and has career and financial stability.
Freedom
Commitment is not for the 20s
Explore and enjoy life in the 20s
Learn more about oneself
Find the true self
Show more responsibility
Be able to meet different people
Too early for a permanent relationship
The 20s is for showing your all sides in life
Use the 20s for personality improvement
Learn more about the needs of a permanent relationship
I whole heartily agree with you gmwilliams.
The teens and 20s are a period of self-discovery. The focus should be on learning about ourselves: our wants, needs, and finding out what it is we like and dislike when it comes to relationships. Odds are whatever we consider to be an "ideal mate" at age 18 will be something completely different at age 28 or 35.
Having said that there will always be those who hit "the relationship lottery" early in life. "We met in Jr. High and have been together ever since...etc" However the vast majority of us tend to "fail our way to success" when it comes to relationships.
Oftentimes the advice given to our youth is ignored for many reasons. Chief among them is our hormones are raging during our teens and early 20s. Every teen or person in their early 20s believes they're smarter than their parents or elders when it comes to love, sex, and relationships. Teens want to be seen as being adults and have their relationships viewed as such.
It is not until we have (personally) experienced heartache and disappointment that we start to do some introspective thinking to examine our (choices) we have made with regard to selecting our mates.
Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse. There is no getting around that. If we are unhappy with the choices we've made we can (learn) from our mistakes and make better choices for ourselves in the future. It's important to know yourself, love yourself, and trust yourself BEFORE you choose a mate. Too many people however would rather blame their exes for their bad relationship experiences instead of acknowledging (they) selected that person!
I made this the central theme in my book: My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany). Our lives for the most part are the end result of the decisions and choices (we) have made along the way. Whenever we "blame" others or outside forces we negate our own power of choice. Self-empowerment comes from realizing we always have "options" and being willing to take responsibility for our own happiness!
Totally agree, the 20s should be FUN, FUN. The 20s are THE TIME to have fun and freedom. I believe that NO ONE should marry before 35. Great answer as always.
by Michael Valencia 11 years ago
Is it better to marry when you're younger (20's) or wait until your 30's or 40's?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 9 years ago
Why it is best for people not to marry until at least their late 20s to early 30s because duringthat period, they would have had experienced & experimented with varied lifestyle & relationship options, have attained the necessary education, & have a stable career?
by Jenny Pugh 6 years ago
A happy, fulfilling, and successful marriage is supposed to be lifetime where the couple grow together in loving, understanding and caring for each other. Likewise, ideally, they learn from each other and reciprocate each others needs and simultaneously progress in their pursuit to achieve their...
by Leaderofmany 6 years ago
At what age should people stop dating or should they continue to date until the final roll call?
by Elena 10 years ago
Reasons why people don’t bother with Church anymore....
by Phil Perez 7 years ago
I'd like an explanation why people would want to go to Montreal to visit? I know most people communicate in English, but most people in Montreal do not. But if that doesn't bother you enough to not visit, what things do you like/dislike about Montreal ?
Copyright © 2024 The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers on this website. HubPages® is a registered trademark of The Arena Platform, Inc. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers to this website may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website.
Copyright © 2024 Maven Media Brands, LLC and respective owners.
As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.
For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://corp.maven.io/privacy-policy
Show DetailsNecessary | |
---|---|
HubPages Device ID | This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons. |
Login | This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service. |
Google Recaptcha | This is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy) |
Akismet | This is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy) |
HubPages Google Analytics | This is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy) |
HubPages Traffic Pixel | This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized. |
Amazon Web Services | This is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy) |
Cloudflare | This is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy) |
Google Hosted Libraries | Javascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy) |
Features | |
---|---|
Google Custom Search | This is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy) |
Google Maps | Some articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy) |
Google Charts | This is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy) |
Google AdSense Host API | This service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy) |
Google YouTube | Some articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy) |
Vimeo | Some articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy) |
Paypal | This is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy) |
Facebook Login | You can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy) |
Maven | This supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy) |
Marketing | |
---|---|
Google AdSense | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Google DoubleClick | Google provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Index Exchange | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Sovrn | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Facebook Ads | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Amazon Unified Ad Marketplace | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
AppNexus | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Openx | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Rubicon Project | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
TripleLift | This is an ad network. (Privacy Policy) |
Say Media | We partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy) |
Remarketing Pixels | We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites. |
Conversion Tracking Pixels | We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service. |
Statistics | |
---|---|
Author Google Analytics | This is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy) |
Comscore | ComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy) |
Amazon Tracking Pixel | Some articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy) |
Clicksco | This is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy) |