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Do you believe (most) men in their (20s) are looking to "settle down"? or "play the field"?


I read numerous posts from women in their 20s who are very unhappy with men in their age group when it comes to dating & having a serious relationship/marriage mindset. I suspect gender differences especially during our formative years play a large part. Very few men "pretended" to be fathers and husbands the way a lot of women did as little girls with being mothers to their dolls or imagining fairytale happily ever endings with a prince/knight. Are these women being "unrealistic" when they expect men in their 20s to have the same dating and marriage goals? Are men in their 30s more likely?

 

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Best Answer Molly McPhillips (mollymcphillips) says

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    "Your 20's should be for finding yourself...not someone else." - Sounds like excellent advice to me. Also having unrealistic expectations can lead to heartache. Naturally there will always be "exceptions" but exceptions are not the rule. :-)


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Kevin W (Alphadogg16) says

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    Ironically when discussed this is commonsense and yet women in their late teens and 20s continue to be unrealistic in their expectations and allow themselves to become emotionally invested with immature guys and then later claim "men" are no good.


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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    Makes a lot of sense to me. Unfortunately young women in their late teens and 20s continue to (expect guys their own age) to be "ready" to become "serious/settle down". If they knew it's not true maybe they could avoid having their hearts broken.


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Grace Marguerite Williams (gmwilliams) says

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    gmwilliams, As always you make some valid points. Just as mollymcphillips stated: "Your 20's should be for finding yourself...not someone else." I think the big problem is most young people don't think about their potential future options!

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    Grace Marguerite Williams (gmwilliams) 3 years ago

    This is correct, at least among middle, upper middle, & upper class men.They're pursuing their studies & careers. It's POOR men who MARRY YOUNG which explains why they're uneducated and poor, they NEITHER pursue further studies nor careers!