I read numerous posts from women in their 20s who are very unhappy with men in their age group when it comes to dating & having a serious relationship/marriage mindset. I suspect gender differences especially during our formative years play a large part. Very few men "pretended" to be fathers and husbands the way a lot of women did as little girls with being mothers to their dolls or imagining fairytale happily ever endings with a prince/knight. Are these women being "unrealistic" when they expect men in their 20s to have the same dating and marriage goals? Are men in their 30s more likely?
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"Your 20's should be for finding yourself...not someone else." - Sounds like excellent advice to me. Also having unrealistic expectations can lead to heartache. Naturally there will always be "exceptions" but exceptions are not the rule. :-)
The 20s are a time to test the relationship waters. To settle down in one's 20s is quaint and old fashioned. In the past, people settle down in their 20s because of societal expectations.
Ironically when discussed this is commonsense and yet women in their late teens and 20s continue to be unrealistic in their expectations and allow themselves to become emotionally invested with immature guys and then later claim "men" are no good.
They are MEN; however, they see their 20s as an opportunity to explore options and these options include relationships as well as studies and careers. Only OLD-FASHIONED people settle down in their 20s.
Makes a lot of sense to me. Unfortunately young women in their late teens and 20s continue to (expect guys their own age) to be "ready" to become "serious/settle down". If they knew it's not true maybe they could avoid having their hearts broken.
Some women figure it out and date older men. They have their lives the way they like it, understand what they want and how to get it, know plenty about being on their own and just want someone else to share life with. It's how I have an older hubby.
Definitely, women also. Smart women AREN'T about to settle down in their 20s either. They want to know who THEY are before settling down. That is wise.
gmwilliams, As always you make some valid points. Just as mollymcphillips stated: "Your 20's should be for finding yourself...not someone else." I think the big problem is most young people don't think about their potential future options!
This is correct, at least among middle, upper middle, & upper class men.They're pursuing their studies & careers. It's POOR men who MARRY YOUNG which explains why they're uneducated and poor, they NEITHER pursue further studies nor careers!