Why did people fall out of love suddenly?Even in marriage.

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   folorunsho80posted 10 years ago

   Why did people fall out of love suddenly?Even in marriage.
   
   Why did people fall out of love suddenly?Even in marriage.

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   Love does not last when the little things are taken for granted. Love is like dough it is needs to be kneaded continuously  stay in good texture. If you don't pay attention to your partner  they go astray and feel lonely the need to drift away the immediate answer is to  get away from that relationship takes two to tango.

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   Bk42authorposted 10 years ago

   I agree with DDE. Relationships are work. It's easy to start taking someone for granted whom you see on a regular basis and when this happens and neither partner does anything to stop it things begin to spiral downward. It's important to take time to show appreciation for each other and do things together such as a regular date night, surprise each other with gifts, compliment each other, etc. With everyday life getting in the way, it's easy to forget these things.

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   wychicposted 10 years ago

   Part of it is not constantly working on it, and some is perhaps because people get to know each other better over time. Sometimes, the person just isn't who you thought they were.
   
   On the other hand, life is going to have ups and downs with plenty of hardship to go around. When we feel bad about something else in life, or are displeased with life, those feelings sometimes get displaced on our partners. You don't have the emotional energy left for someone at that moment, and some people think that means the emotion simply isn't there anymore. It takes work to get back to an emotionally healthy point and re-connect with your partner. It's also necessary to take responsibility for your own responses, and not blame someone else because life isn't going right. Of all the relationships I know that have "gone south," most of the people involved seem to think the other person couldn't make them happy anymore, never realizing that no one can MAKE you happy or unhappy in the first place. Unreasonable expectations lead to a lot of discontent within a relationship, and may make people think that it's just not working anymore.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   I find it to be the opposite much of the time. Most people fall "in love" (suddenly) and fall out of love (gradually).
   Usually what happens is their mate slowly STOPS doing all the things that caused one to fall in love with them. Romance & passion dies.
   (It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark!)
   "We treat the (new) better than the tried and true." In the beginning both people made it a (priority) to add joy and happiness to each other's life. Oftentimes once people get married they scratch that off of their "things to do list". It's not uncommon to hear someone say: "He/She is NOT the same person I fell in love with." When we change our circumstances change.
   Another possibility is sometimes people evolve in different directions. There is no neutral in relationships. You're either "growing together" or "growing apart".  If one is not careful it's very easy to (sleepwalk) through a marriage/relationship. One person assumes that is the way things are supposed to be and the other person quietly longs for the way things use to be. Words may hurt but silence kills.
   "There is no amount of (work) or (communication) that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want."
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have.
   Last but not least sometimes people wake up and feel like they "settled" not just for the person they're with but in life in general. Some people call it a "midlife crisis" others call it a "midlife awakening". Either way it's the recognition that one has more years behind them than they do ahead of them and they want to make the (most) of those remaining years. It's not unheard of to hear about people quitting established jobs, ending marriages, or relocating in order to pursue dreams they gave up on.

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