Why we felt sorry after committing a mistake.

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   Jivil Georgeposted 10 years ago

   Why we felt sorry after committing a mistake.
   
   If we know that what we are doing is wrong or it is cheating then why we purposely do such thing and after committing it why we felt sorry for that.

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   Tusitala Tomposted 10 years ago

   There is a part of us that thrives on disharmony and aggitation.  It cannot live without it.  But to find out about this in greater detail I suggest you get hold of a copy of Ekhart Tolle's Book, A New Earth - Awakening to Your Life's Purpose and studying that text.  It explains a great deal about what many of us believe to be our real self when it is actually not the self at all. 
   
   I suggest you take particular note of Chapters Three (The Core of Ego) and Chapter Four (Role playing: the Many Faces of the Ego)
   
   Of course, reading about the reason we'd choose to cause ourselves angst won't change this habit of the mind.   However, it might prompt you to take a deeper look at what you are and what you are not and...who knows...get you actually practising what Tolle is endevouring to teach.
   
   Self-understanding is the very best thing we can do for ourselves.  But a gentle warning.   Once you start in on it you can never go back.

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      Jivil Georgeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      thanks tom.

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   You feel sorry for hurting the other person and for committing that mistake which you had already known was wrong.

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      Jivil Georgeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      is that wrong???

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It is wrong by all accounts

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      Jivil Georgeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      so you should not feel sorry for what you had done.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   A mistake is forgetting to dot an (i), cross a (t), turning right when you (meant) to turn left. Cheating is not a "mistake".
   Cheating is an "intentional" act.
   The goal of any cheater is to hold onto all that is good in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side. They have no interest in replacing one relationship with another or going through a messy breakup or divorce.
   It's a selfish attempt to "have it all".
   A cheater does not feel (sorry) for making a "mistake". When they say: "I never meant to hurt you." What they're really saying is: "I never thought you would find out." They feel sorry that (you) found out and now that everything is out in the open you hold the power in determining if your relationship will continue. Or if by chance they were to going leave you for their "side partner" they didn't want you to know there was someone else. Some people treat relationships like jobs; they won't leave one until they have another one lined up. 
   There's a big difference between feeling "sorry" and feeling "guilty".Nevertheless it's "intention" that determines whether an act is a "mistake" or not.
   No one (accidentally) has sex!

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