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Flirting: Is it cheating?


Whenever I've heard this question asked it is always answered from the perspective of the person doing the flirting. I want to know if you saw (your mate, spouse, or significant other) flirting with someone or you were given photos or an audio of them flirting...Would you consider it a form of cheating? A flirter says:"Just because I'm married doesn't mean I can't have friends." (The line keeps moving.) Flirting is not cheating. Having "secret friends" is not cheating, meeting for lunch/dinner is not cheating, holding hands is not cheating, and foreplay is not sex..etc Is flirting cheating?

 

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    "The kiss is the persuasion to lower invasion." Everything is innocent until it's not. LOL! Those who say flirting is not cheating have never asked their mates if it were okay with them if they flirted with others! (Cheating is breaking the rules.)


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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    Thanks MsDora. Most the people answering this question do so from their point of view of why (they) flirt. I'm curious how they feel about seeing their spouse/mate or significant other flirt with others! Would you condone it? or Feel betrayed?

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    Paula (fpherj48) 3 years ago

    Dr. Billy.......Exactly! We agree. The "Flirt" is being terribly disrespectful, not to mention thoughtless....toward their partner/spouse.


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    dashingscorpio 2 years ago

    Whether flirting is "cheating" or not is in the eye of the beholder. Certainly the person doing the flirting knows what their intentions are. However if one witnessed their spouse or significant other flirting with various women/men is that okay?


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    Paula (fpherj48) 3 years ago

    fpherj48 (Paula) also says: Flirting is the LURE on the fish hook. when I cast out my line, I always came back with a catch! Most, I threw back, some I fileted and the rest I dropped off at the taxidermist!! ROFLMAO!! This is too much fun!!


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    Foodeee 3 years ago

    Very Well Said!!!!

    Thank you for your insight. Its unfortunate that some people cross the line and don't even know where they crossed it.


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    Shelly Elliott 3 years ago

    Humans are not animals brings on the question why do only some animals mate for life? It is understanding that self esteem is an issue with flirting, however again it depends on how mature we are and how we communicate to our partner. Venus vs. Mars


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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    So you're saying it wouldn't bother you if you saw your mate or spouse flirting with someone? The funny thing about agendas is the person who your mate is flirting with has no way of knowing their intentions.

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    dashingscorpio 2 years ago

    kklend , I will assume your answer applies to women as well as this question was not "gender specific". Women have also been known to flirt.

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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    The definition of cheating is breaking the rules.

    Flirting is not cheating if the people in the relationship state it's okay or they expect it. Only our mates can tell us if our flirting with others is cheating & vice versa. Perception is realit


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    Paula (fpherj48) 3 years ago

    HUH ??!!


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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    I agree "perception is reality" or flirting is in the eye of the beholder.Nevertheless it's important to know what your (mate) considers flirting to be as well as them knowing what you consider it t be and if you both find it "acceptable" behavior


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    dashingscorpio 3 years ago

    If you witnessed (your man) flirting with women via a hidden camera would you say he's just seeking some attention or would you think he's fishing for potential takers? We tend to only flirt with those we're (attracted) to. How innocent is that?


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