I don't believe it's so much an issue of being too clingy or too affectionate as it is being with the (right) person for yourself!
When it comes to dating and relationships we are always looking for "gender shortcuts". We want to say women want this and men want that because it's easier than looking at individual women/men
Ultimately everyone wants to be loved for who (they) are. If you are a person who enjoys a lot of affection the solution is not to become someone you are not but rather find someone who appreciates you for who you are! Happiness comes from being true to yourself!
The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship as you do, (naturally agrees) with you on how to get those things, and last but not least have a (mutual) depth of love and desire for one another.
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde