It's a cliché to hear; "All the good ones are taken." I believe one of the problems "good people" have when it comes to finding love is they're NOT attracted to other good people! In our youth both the "nice girls" and the "nice boys" get ignored by the (cool or popular kids). Instead of the "nice" coupling up they become determined to find a way to be (accepted) by the "in crowd". People say they want a nice, honest, open, loving mate; BUT they chase after those who are a "mystery" or a "challenge". Why? One place where they're sure to find "good people" is in their "The Friend Zone".
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Say Yes To Life, You have a point that in part it's a case of them having the "opposites attract" bug. However I also suspect a lot of people want to be with those who are considered "hot"/"cool" because it validates (them). "Look at who I'm with"
I believe eventually they do get together. However it's usually after they've spent some time pursing the "hot" looking or "popular" people. Oftentimes heartache leads one to change their list of what is important to have in a mate.
You made an excellent point about how (age) plays a factor. In our youth we desire/chase after the "wow" factor. As we get older we become more practical & look for more substance than flash. The "bad boy" and the "it girl" are heartbreakers.
Very true! There are phases people go through where they concern themselves with what others think about them. They want to be admired or envied. If they can't be "the star" they want to be admired for running in the same circles as the star! :-)
You're right. " at the end of the day you need to have common vision, values, morals.." Like attracts like in the end and opposites attract divorce attorneys. :)