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What are the reasons for couples who love each other, having less sex after having a baby?


What are the barriers to having physical intimacy in the context of an otherwise good relationship, i.e. where there are no other significant issues like adultery or violence?

 

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    Nicola Tweedie 3 years ago

    I think the way that we feel about our bodies it crucial. I remember being really proud of my body and what it was doing when I was thinking about my child, but not feeling pleased and apprecaitive of it when I thought about it as a sexual object!

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    dragonflycolor 3 years ago

    LOL, twice a week would be amazing for some couples. :)


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    Nicola Tweedie 3 years ago

    Really interesting point about viewing the other person as a parent...I guess this has all kinds of connotations about growing up and being like your own parents (most probably a non-sexual being!).

    I definitely agree about the exhaustion.

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    Nicola Tweedie 3 years ago

    Beautifully written. I think the point about the function of the room is really significant, especially if your little one sleeps with you for any period of time. And the scheduling things and prioritising.

    Thank you for your thoughts.


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    Venkatachari M 3 years ago

    Quite right. It takes times to recover and some of your attention gets drawn towards your child thereby decreasing or disturbing your lust towards sex.

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    Nicola Tweedie 3 years ago

    I hadn't thought about this, but yes it makes a lot of sense. Particularly the social aspect of food too, sharing food and being uninterrupted when you eat, versus eating with small people and all that that entails...