Over the past few days there has been a lot in the news about the recent killings in Santa Barbara. According to video and documents Elliott Rodger left behind he was very angry about being a virgin at age 22 as well as being rejected by every "beautiful woman" he approached. Almost 5 years ago George Sodini age 48 brought four handguns into a LA Fitness gym outside of Pittsburgh and killed 3 women because he too was angry about being rejected countless times. They call them "involuntary celibates". Maybe they were aiming at women out of their league! Isn't rejection simply a part of life?
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junkseller, Thanks for your insightful answer. You have an excellent point about society failing boys. Too much of their masculinity is associated sexual conquests and violence. If they're not perceived as tough or a player they feel inadequate.
Having been in sales for several years myself I can attest to the fact a lot of people would benefit by learning to approach life with a sales mindset. Rejection is the same as saying NEXT! You move on and you get better at reading "buy signals".
You're right about age 22 still being young. However in the U.S. boys often view male virginity as if it were a disease! LOL! Some guys have been known to lie about their experience to impress one another. Socially awkward & lack of confidence to
fpherj48, Thanks for your answer. It's unfortunate there are these ticking time bombs walking around which we can't do very much to stop. Elliott passed a background check for guns but it's not just about guns since he killed 3 people with a knife
Exactly, dashing. You're right! Elliot was determined to kill...in whatever manner with whatever weapon available. A background check is often useless, especially when it's a manipulator able to deceive & hide his illness.
The media has made it appear as though every beautiful young woman is a candidate for "Girls Gone Wild" and they'll have sex with anyone! When it doesn't happen that way some guys feel inadequate and eventually become angry with the world.
Good point! I also believe some of these guys are chasing after only model types who will never have an interest in them. They limit their own options for finding happiness. Today is not forever! Online dating offers worldwide possibilities.
they may not be able to distinguish between tv and reality. and youtube. yikes. youtube is reality purgatory. strange times.
Coming of age movies, TV shows, & music videos have probably set up a lot of young men to have "unrealistic expectations" when it comes to dating and having sex with "hot" looking women. It's very competitive when trying to attract popular people