My father made some good sense several times when he said "love is SHOWN not said". He went on to explain that you can say I love you all day long and it holds absolutely no meaning at all if the loving actions aren't behind it. in our rural community, you'd see the doctors, lawyers, and their wives all going to church and holding hands, etc. But they were all having AFFAIRS!!! In my family, we didn't say those "magic" words much....I didn't hear it much and when I moved out and my mom would say it to me over the phone, I had a very difficult time saying it back because it was uncomfortable. It was my 2nd husband and his step children who were able to pull me out of that and made me more comfortable in saying "I Love You". it was odd for me to see a father and mother interact with their children in that they said I love you all the time because I didn't grow up that way. Soooooo....I don't think much of it when someone doesn't say the words....as long as the deeds are there.