People who look, talk, behave,and think differently usually are shunned. Most of us learn what it takes to "fit in" early on.
While the parents may strive to raise their child "genderless" the rest of the world is going to put them in a category. Most children also choose to conform to their surrounding peers. They'd rather be "in" the circle than to be "outside" of it.
Having said that I have wondered myself just how much is "natural" behavioral differences we see in boys and girls versus our parental/societal "gender indoctrination" and expectations.
What would happen if some parents home schooled their son and daughter with little influence from the outside world? Suppose they gave the little boy baby dolls to play with, a stroller, a coloring book of flowers, an Easy- Bake Oven to bake cookies and brownies, and a tea set, along with bright colorful clothing, scented soap/candles gifts for birthdays which included. While the daughter was given fire trucks, remote control cars/boats/planes, water pistols, walkie talkies...etc
Would they automatically want to switch toys because of their gender or would they accept what they have as being "natural".
Are boys naturally more aggressive and girls naturally more passive? What if we encouraged boys to express their emotions and told girls "Real women don't cry" during their formative years. Would we see a difference? Which has the most bearing on how we turn out: gender or environment? hmmm