Although I don’t believe in stereotyping, I think John Gray’s book poses an interesting question. Is there anything you wish your opposite sex would better understand about you or your own gender? I would have to say that compartmentalizing how both men and women react in certain situations is not necessarily healthy, and that we are more alike than we realize in terms of expressing our feelings.
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I liked your answer. Thank you. I believe that part of this is gender based, but this also influenced by culture and environment. At the end of the day, it depends on the relationship of the two people involved.
Another interesting answer, and I have not read Jon Grey, so I cannot comment as to his work, but you have provided interesting insight.
Billy: Did he really? Oh my...that's a shame. I had heard various criticisms of his book...my only criticism was in his using compartmentalization, rather like index cards, as an easy fix to better understanding.
Communication is certainly key. Sometimes women tend to get frustrated when a man does not automatically understand why they are upset, when they have not taken the time to actually communicate the why. When each truly know the other, that's best.
Hi Social minds. I agree with both you and Faith...communication on the part of the individual is key...but I think this is based on the person, and not automatically on gender. Thank you for your answer.
So true, Genna, not on gender for sure.
Interesting answer, thank you!
Thank you so much, Jodah, for sharing your wise insight here. Perfect!
Loved your answer. I think we are different, but I’m not sure if we are from different planets. Hubby used to , “Genna you are like a plane circling a runway, not wanting to land,” when I explained something, “Please, honey, get to the point.” Lol.
Interesting answer...thank you.
Good points. I've only read parts of the book as I tend not to ascribe to stereotypical perspectives or that recipe card fix to problems. I wasn't aware of the problems with his reputation. Thank you for that very thoughtful answer.
I read parts too. Actually, it was kind of interesting. I was referring to Grey's character more than his writing style. I know you're not ascribing to "recipes." :)
I know, savvy, thank you! The recipe-fix I attached to Gray's explanations. I appreciate your thoughtful answers. :-)
Good question. i think it is because of the disparity in the "personality" people often associate with the two.
He chose Mars because it is the Roman God of War all that is Masculine and Venus as the Roman Goddess of Love and Passion all that is feminine.
What about the satellite Pandora for women - they go both ways and Neptune for men 'the God of the sea'?
Mr. Gray never said why he specifically chose those particular planets perhaps they are more common and easily associated with the eponymous metaphor in his book: that men and women are from distinct planets(Men are from Mars Women are from Venus)
It is just strange if it was for the names. Not all men are into war and not all women are into love. Perhaps there was another reason.
Wonderful, interesting answer. thank you.
Brenda, I agree to a certain degree. Perhaps not as widely different as Mars and Venus.
I was a Lesbian for 30 years:), then one day, 4 years ago, I fell in love with a male, an alpha male at that. We were having problems, then I worked it out, I was treating him like a girlfriend (woops),I am still getting used to the male difference:)