If you think the answer is cheating why do you think they would choose that option? If you believe the answer is file for divorce do you know of any men who ever (initiated the legal filing) of a divorce? According to statistics (women) in the U.S. initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings! Are men more committed to legally staying in unhappy marriages? Even mistresses are often warned by friends: "The husband never leaves his wife."
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"Cheating can be a temporary thing." Very interesting!
I agree it's possible the cheater doesn't want to throw out the proverbial baby with the dirty bath water. I suppose they're not looking to (replace) one relationship with another one.
"Nobody I know has tolerated cheating over divorce." It's odd that is what I've witnessed as well. However I've seen it forgiven when there is no marriage! hmm Naturally there are famous people like Hilary Clinton & Anthony Weiner's wife stayed.
some comments surprise me. w/o a single doubt, or 2nd thought of any kind. Had my 1st husband (deceased)cheated I would NOT have,could NOT have divorced him. I ADORED him in every way. I'd have spent the rest of my life trying to be what he needed.
Great answer! "Cheating is the preferable choice in most cases...unless and until they are CAUGHT...then of course, it's no longer THEIR choice! ":)
You're right! Some men would rather kill a spouse than divorce them. Men do separate love & sex.
Thanks for your answer. Recently I asked if sexual incompatibility is enough of a reason to file for divorce. Over 90% responded by saying "no". My guess is cheaters may not view issues in their marriage as a cause for divorce. Maybe it's $ though
I believe anyone who is "unhappy" is likely to have (selfish) thoughts because it's human nature to want to be happy! What separates us is which option we choose. Some stay and cheat, some leave, others act as if they're powerless and do nothing.
You make a very valid point. I don't believe cheaters want to replace their current mate. They're most likely looking to compliment what they already have. Clearly they don't buy into the 80/20 rule. They're not willing to do without.