If you give him the "benefit of the doubt" that there is no mistress in hiding or some other person he has his sights on; Do you find his reason for filing for divorce to be refreshingly honest? Rather than bad mouth the soon to be ex he's essentially saying he's no longer "in love" and tired of being married. Had he opted to cheat the way (most unhappily married men do) everyone would be saying; "He should have left if he was so unhappy!" Is being "unhappy" enough of a reason to move on from a marriage? If the choice is to leave or stay and cheat to pursue happiness; Isn't leaving better?
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I agree! +1
My parents got divorced when I was 7. Unlike the "After School Specials" it isn't as traumatic as most people believe. If the parents love and support the children apart it's better than them living under a toxic cloud. Children are very resilient
It is far better for parents to live apart than to be constantly bickering Now THAT is a TOXIC environment.Children know that such parents HATE each other they also lose respect for such parents,deeming them to be pathetic hypocrites in the least!
THANK YOU DEAREST DR. UNHAPPINESS is NO REASON for getting a divorce. If there are minor problems in a marriage, those problems should be worked out. Marriage is a give and take situation. That is what grown ups do-work out these minor problems.
Unhappiness is code for NOT "in love". This isn't one of those 72 day celebrity marriages. He's had 19 years to look at the big picture. This woman deserves to be married to a man who does love her! Would you want a man who (didn't) love you?
Definitely NOT! I believe that marriage should be based upon truth. If a couple no longer love each other or have grown apart, divorce SHOULD be. It is not good to live a HYPOCRITICAL LIE!
Sparklea, Chris Rock was a very well known and successful stand up comedian before he got married. He use to be a regular on Saturday Night Live 24yrs ago, appeared in movies, worked with Eddie Murphy..etc Being "tired" means he is not "in love".
Thank you dashingscorpio for clarifying this. You are 100 percent correct: Being 'tired' truly means he is not 'in love.' You hit the nail on the head. Personally I have never cared for Chris Rock. I find him to be annoying.
Love is a feeling! Would you marry someone you didn't love? Would you to stay with someone you didn't love? Would you want someone to stay with you who didn't love you? Take away (the feelings of love) out of marriage then cheating & abuse begins
Love starts with chemistry and feelings. Marriage is a love long vow to commitment. In marriage there will be times when things are tough that is when you have to cultivate the feelings of love again.
After being together for (19 years) it's probably a safe bet there have been ups and downs! It's not as if he ran as soon as the first storm arrived. Anyone who ends a marriage after 19 years doesn't do so on a whim. This is going to cost million$
If a person does not love you,there is NO need to stay married to that person.That is only logical.An actress reported that her parents constantly argued & stayed together because of HER However, the abuse escalated until the mother shot the fath
gmwilliams; That's a crazy story! And yet we often hear about a spouse killing their mate and trying to get away with it. The Laci Peterson case in CA and the Stacy Peterson case in IL quickly come to mind. Divorce is way better than murder!
We're not suppose to post links but if you Google "TMZ, Chris Rock" you should get the link. I saw the movie too. It had very funny parts especially DMX singing in jail along with the scenes of Cedric the Entertainer in the hotel room.:)
The divorce rate hovers around 50% and it's even worse among celebrities! Being "tired" or "unhappy" are code words for not being "in love". Would marry someone who didn't love you? His wife deserves to be with a man who does love her!
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Paula you made an excellent point. It could be said is there anyone who has ever been single that wished they were in a serious relationship or marriage? I think in this situation of almost 20 years a person (knows) if this is just a "phase".:)
Yes..20 years is certainly enough time to come to a firm decision. No one outside the relationship truly has a clue what goes on behind closed doors. In HOLLYWOOD especially! We can't even begin to relate! Several million makes it less painful?
"Being tired of a lifetime commitment or being (unhappily married) are not reasons for divorce" Really?
Not being in love or "unhappy" isn't enough? Happily married people don't file for divorce! Doesn't his wife deserve a man who does love her?
And who said that he doesn't love her. The press is that he is tired of being married. Perhaps it's the other way around.
If your spouse files for a divorce from you it sure doesn't appear that they're "in love" with you. Actions speak louder than words!
Chris Rock has made it clear that (he) is the one filing for the divorce. He doesn't want to be with her anymore
Not to start an argument, but that is what I was saying if you read my comment.
Billy I'm not arguing with you. I was just responding to the first part of your comment: "And who said that he doesn't love her."
Happy New Years!!!!
Happy New Years! to you also!
"Marriage is a commitment; it isn't about "feelings" which can change with the wind."
From personal experience, I can totally agree with Joyfulcrown. If it were simply about ones own self-centered feelings I would have moved on years ago.
billys1, It's odd no one condones (getting married to someone you don't love) and yet they say you should stay married to someone you don't love! It's as though being "in love" doesn't matter. It's unfair to stay and use up their mate's time!
LOL 1. No one said that life would be or is a fair thing, and 2. I am sorry but to me at least you make people sound like a thing, a commodity. We make promises (vows) to people in our lives and our words should be our honor, even if tired.
Actually I'm just the opposite. I put myself in (his wife's shoes) and ask myself: Would I want to be married to someone who did not love me? The answer for me is "no"! If someone is "tired" of being with me I'd want them to go! I can do better!
I MUST AGREE WITH THIS ANSWER!
Tired means "I'm not in love." Would you marry someone who didn't love you? If not would you want someone to stay with you who didn't love you? For man to file for divorce and give up millions of dollars I suspect there was serious contemplation.
That's what marriage counselors are there for.
Stargrrl, Have you ever gone to a marriage counselor? Trust me they cannot make someone be "in love" with you. Counseling only works for couples who WANT to stay together. If one person has mentally & emotionally checked out it's usually over.