It seems more people are interested in finding someone who will love them "unconditionally" then (they) are in loving someone the way they want to be loved! True love is having a (mutual) depth of love!
These days a lot of people HATE the dating process. They want to skip the (time investment) of getting to know someone.
Most people have yet to figure out who (they are) let alone what they want or need in a mate for life! It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
Generally speaking these types of people allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices.
Others start off by saying; "I'm looking for a (serious) relationship." or "I'm looking for someone who is ready to get married." It's as if (timing) is more important than the (person) they meet!
They've made up their minds they are going to marry the NEXT person they date and therefore their only requirement is he/she also wants to get married. First comes like and then comes love! Every serious relationship I've ever had including marriage began casually and (evolved) into something serious. Dating is suppose to be a FUN and Sociable activity.
Relax! No one is asking you to decide on whether to cut the red wire or the blue wire! It's placing a (self imposed urgency) that keeps people from enjoying being single. Happy relaxed people are far more attractive than uptight people.
Another game people play is they'll eliminate as many options for themselves and then scream they can't find anyone. There are over 7 Billion people on the planet! However if I said "the one" has to be of my same race I may be eliminating over 6 Billion people sight unseen! If I said they have to presently live in my same town or state that could eliminate additional millions on top of the billions who don't live in my country. All of this is before you get to height, weight, education, hobbies, and occupation! Lastly we say our family/friends must like "the one" and vice versa.
Here are 4 basic steps for finding "the one".
1. Become a "me expert". - You have know what traits you want/need.
2. Create a profile of your "Ideal Mate" (Be as granular as you want)
This may include such things as do they live in the city or suburb, hobbies, interests, types of places they'd frequent. shop..etc
3. Transference (Ask yourself if you were them would you want you?)
If the answer is no then cultivate the traits you believe they'd want.
4. Be there! You have to run in the same circles! (See #2)