I had a discussion with a woman who said: "Dates are for fun, so I see nothing wrong with going out with someone you're not attracted to." Do you really believe (men) often ask women out on dates whom (they find unattractive) and have no romantic interest in? I'm not talking about a "platonic friendship" where two people are going to be "hanging out". I'm talking about guys who introduce themselves, ask for your phone number and dates afterwards. What do you think (his motive) was for asking (you) out and not some other woman? Just to have fun? or Does it matter to you why he asked you out?
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I couldn't agree more. I also had a horrible blind date & won't go on another. I had a sprained foot, was on crutches & he walked far ahead. Other men were opening doors for me & flirting with me! I never saw that ill mannered loser again
Women who choose to ignore the fact that men only ask women out whom they're attracted to are probably responsible for a many guys ending up in the "friend zone"! Saying "yes" to date gives a man "hope". Wasting someone's time is selfish & cruel
"When someone asks me on a date it seems clear to me that it's for the purpose of exploring a romantic relationship."
- Very true!
It's not because a guy has money burning a hole in his pocket! :) He's (attracted to you) and wants to learn more.
Express10, I believe some women (choose) to think this way in order to make it okay in their mind to fill up their calendar with something to do. Men don't usually invest time/money on women they find unattractive. All women (should) know this.
"going out on a "date", hmmmmm, doesn't that mean if your going on a date you a interested. why call it a "date"?" Exactly!
These women know full well the guy is romantically interested in them which is why he's spending his money and time.
That's completely different from how men approach dating. They only ask out a women whom they're (already attracted) to or interested in. Thus they assume if she says "yes" it's mutual. Unfortunately some women say yes just to go out!:)
Three years ago, I checked out eHarmony, and got a date from a man who flat-out said he wasn't interested in me. I wasn't interested in him either. But he told me about Skype, which is a way to date people in cyberspace. So I learned something.
Rejection early on hurts less than getting rejected later on.
Again it depends. Individuality makes human interaction more completed than a one catch phrase. There are more than one way to interact with a man that shows interest when you are not, for me it is more important to salvage a man's ego.
You said: "it is more important to salvage a man's ego." The reality is it more important not to lead someone on as well as to be true to oneself. No one has to be "rude" but men can handle rejection and they appreciate honesty.
How does that work? You're still going to have to tell him you're not interested at some point... unless you plan on marrying someone to save their ego. Best to do it earlier before you waste their time.
Again it depends and yes it is more important for me to salvage a man's ago. It's all about how one chooses to interact with others, or men in particular. Why take it to such and extreme and bring up marriage? Is is only a first date.
I thought I had exapanded on that. I brought it up because if you're not attracted to them you'll have to break it to them sometime. Why is it better to do it after the first date than before?