What do you do when you're mad at someone and you can't tell them?

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   lisasuniquevoiceposted 9 years ago

   What do you do when you're mad at someone and you can't tell them?
   
   

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   Wakerraposted 9 years ago

   It depends what you mean by can't tell them.  Would you please elaborate your meaning?

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   Ian Mooneposted 9 years ago

   Think along these lines mate, & eventually your'l learn that anger is self manifested..So if someone says or does something that annoys you, it isn't/wasn't their actions or words that caused your anger..It was you that caused or is causing the anger by how you "react" to other people's words or actions, & you will in those situations be reacting with your emotions not your conscious self..So if & when someone annoys you you will "imagine" how annoyed you are, & then your mind will instantly manifest the exact annoyed feelings (even words) that you imagined manifesting....So what ever you do don't sit there harbouring grudges or feeling annoyed by other people's words or actions, because 1) they really didn't mean to do it, & 2) they didn't know how to not say or do what they did or said that annoyed you (they haven't learn't yet)....The reason I know all this is because I had very bad anger & depression at one time in my life, & trained learned then realised how to combat all my negative emotions feelings & thoughts....To answer your question if someone annoys you tell them in a calm way that they annoyed you, if they argue walk away but if their willing to talk explain to them why your annoyed & come to an agreement that it won't happen again....At the end of the day always stay true to yourself, but always make sure that you yourself stay in control when discussing sensitive matters like this is..So speak up if you feel you should, but first consider who's right & why you feel you need to tell them..If it's a best friend tell them asap, & it will be your true test as to whether they are one of your best friends by how "they" react. :-)

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   peachpurpleposted 9 years ago

   you mean like i am mad at my mother in law or teacher and yet i can't tell them?

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   stricktlydatingposted 9 years ago

   Go for a run, chat with a friend, try to distract myself from thinking about it.

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   chefmancaveposted 9 years ago

   Do you mean like how I am mad at you right now and don't want to say something? (Much laughter is heard) Just kidding LisaUniqueVoice. I think the most important thing to do is to THINK before you say a single word. Like Ian suggests, we create our own drama. I try to keep the following thought in my head when I am mad at someone: "What positive effect will my words have on the situation?"  If I feel there is a good chance my words will have a positive effect, then I most certainly will speak.

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      Ian Mooneposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Your spot on buddy, but consider this before feeling mad at someone: Do they know like you know, that they can think "1st" before speaking etc..Most people don't know because their not aware it's actually possible, & so require our empathy not an

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   fpherj48posted 9 years ago

   Being "mad," at someone is a total waste of good time and precious emotion. Besides that, your question is unclear.
   You "can't tell them," ...WHY?  They aren't nearby & you don't know how to reach them?  They don't speak or understand the same language as you do?  They have some sort of power over you...like your BOSS, who might fire you?  It's a parent and you don't wish to be disrespectful?
   If you have wasted enough time getting mad.....and you're SO mad you can't think straight, seems to me you have 2 choices:  1).Get it off your chest in some way ...talk to yourself, write a letter then rip it up, find a friend who will listen, or at least pretend they're listening.....OR 2.) Get over it and realize it's foolish and laugh at the whole thing.

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