Yes, I can say I have been a former victim of this. I was very young and naive and really insecure. But I survived it. I never subjected my children to it, they were born after I left him. But to this day, I still suffer the PTSD. If my current spouse makes a sudden move, say, in an explosive conversation, I cringe back without even thinking. Reflex instinct. But the good thing is that this former husband of so long ago has made an amends for his bad treatment of me. We are now friends and share a son together. (now grown). This rarely happens, but he apologized years ago and tried to make it up the best he could, this was after he joined AA. But he's still very controlling and manipulative and unable to stay in a lasting, normal relationship without slipping into his former tendencies. I can truly say that if I needed anything, and if he had the means to help me, he would. But he cannot be in a normal relationship, he's too damaged. Realized years later, he's bipolar and anti-social personality.