Maybe they've been "married" for many years but they're more like roommates with the same last name. They may even sleep in separate rooms with no romance. I know of a couple that lives in different homes. The husband is at the lake home and the wife stays in the city. On paper they've been married for 40 years however they've lived apart for 15 and show up together for family and company events. We tend to measure success of marriages by how long they last. Is staying married "no matter what" (cheating/abuse/living apart/no longer "in love"...etc) marital success in your eyes? Would you stay?
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No judgment. A radio host asked her 85 year old grandmother what her secret was for having a 60 year marriage. The old woman replied: "Baby we just stayed together."
Having no "deal breakers" may make a marriage (last) but it's probably not happy
Chilling out from each other for a half hour or so is far better than being emotionally checked out of the marriage and living separate lives as if you were single.
Yes I do know that. Today was the second or third time in all the years we've been married that I felt very alone from him, he just can be so mean when he's stressed out!
I'm sure some couples stay together only because they've been together. From my point of view leaving after 30 years is better than leaving after 31 years or 40 years! Time is the most valuable commodity on earth. You don't want to waste it.