My wife and I strive to have a "well balanced" life. We make a point of always having something on the calendar to look forward to. Whenever one feels as though they're being controlled or drowning in obligations it's because they've (chosen) to ignore their own needs. You can't give your best unless you feel at your best.
I believe one's mindset has a lot to do with whether or not they feel they are being controlled by others. For example being in a relationship, getting married,having children, owning a home, and a pet, are all (choices) a person wanted for them self!
It's a little disingenuous to later say these things are "controlling" us when in fact it's only the (effort) required to maintain what (we) wanted!
No one is required to get married, have children, or even own a pet. However if we (choose) to have these things then the best way to view the (work) or obligation required to maintain them is as:
"A labor of love"
The reality is most of what we have in our lives are (choices) we've made. Whether it's electing to buy a home over renting an apartment. Afterwards a homeowner may complain about property taxes, having to maintain a yard, making repairs and so on. It's almost as if they forgot (they could have chosen to rent) an apartment where the landlord would have taken care of those things. Someone once said; "Every blessing comes with a burden."
It's seems as though it's human nature to only see the "burdens" after awhile. Perception is reality. It's important to schedule fun.
The world may not owe you anything but you owe yourself the world!