Love is only costly if we choose the "wrong mate" for ourselves .
Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
The goal is to choose someone who has your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them as (is) or move on.
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde