Assuming his or her ex came to them asking for money or simply told them they were having a hard time. Would it upset you to learn your spouse withdrew money from an account to give to their ex? Would it matter to you whether the ex was single or married? Had no children? If your spouse asked you first before giving the ex money would you be okay with it?
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MsDora, You have a big heart!
Not many wives I would imagine would be okay with their husband giving money to one of his ex girlfriends regardless of the hard times she is experiencing. Most people associate giving money with romantic interest.
I agree that having children together makes all the difference especially if one is giving money to the custodial parent. I can't imagine many wives being okay with their husband giving money to ex girlfriends he had no children with.
Essentially it would be stealing money from your household if there was no discussion. I suspect those who give money to exes behind their spouse's back do so because they (know) she/he would not approve of it.
People lie to getaway with things.
Jykeith Comal, This is a hypothetical question.
In fact it's the flip side of a question you asked;
"What would you do if your wife asked her ex for money?"
There are considerations in both households! Suppose your wife gave money to her ex?
She did! She gave him $900! We still have distrust. This was a few years back. Because of respect and trust our marriage is blah.
Jykeith, I agree with you that it would cause trust issues. It's one thing for a man to give his ex (the mother of his child) money to help out and it's another for her to give him money without asking you. That's taking money out of your home.
And that is all I am saying....Disrespectful. how do you spend our money, then ask for his? Where is Christianity in the relationship?
I'm not sure I would call it disrespectful as much as inconsiderate. Exes who have children together are forever tied to one another. Some people won't date those who have kids for that reason. The only option is to accept it or move on.