Many people say "marriage is commitment" but I wonder how many folks would get married to someone whom they felt was not already committed to them! Very few people I imagine would give the "green light" for their boyfriend or girlfriend to date or have sex with others simply because (they're not married). Are the expectations one has for a mate in an "exclusive relationship" all that different from what one has in a marriage? Does commitment come before the marriage or do you believe only after marriage there is commitment? Does no rings mean no strings? Is there cheating without commitment?
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I agree Tim.
And yet some men truly believe they can fool around with several women up until the night before they get married. Once they put that ring on the commitment (begins). If there's no commitment before the ring there won't be one after
I lean with agreement dashingscorpio. I too have observed what you shared with 'up to' the time of ceremony and wandering. An interesting thought to ponder with gender differences and commitment with relationships. Thanks for the idea :-)
You say: "Marriage is the commitment to care each other to help each other. This is the commitment with LOVE; not LUST"
Generally people don't marry unless they feel there is love and a commitment to care for each other. That's BEFORE they marry.
In my opinion, marriage itself a commitment,
If you inquire about India then you will know that many marriages are, where bride and groom don’t know each other before marriage and these kinds of mirages are more successful than other kinds.
Marriage is a relationship status.
Being committed is demonstrated actions/behavior or ways people conduct themselves to uphold an agreement or promise they've made.
It's possible to be married and not committed to one's spouse.
Meant to say decrees, not decries, typo!
Everyone has their own "mate selection" process. However I tend to believe pre-marital counseling is probably more important than marital counseling. I'd rather avoid making a mistake than to be taught how to live or coexist with one!