Initially, it's physical. "It" has to start somewhere! Each of us has some magic criterion, a 'starter trigger' that turns us on, quickens the pace of our 'precious bodily fluids' (to steal a line from "Dr. Strangelove"). A female friend tells me that Clint Eastwood's WALK drives her crazy. Another tells me that Jack Palance dismounting from his horse in the classic Western, "Shane", is "the sexiest moment in the history of film." I go nuts over breasts and long legs..........on girls, that is. So after the initial 'trigger'--and assuming you can get in the presence of this gorgeous piece--one of two things happens: 1] the initial trigger is all you need. No matter what, As you interact with this person and other characteristics emerge, you remain drawn to them sexually. In the primitive beginnings of our species, I doubt that sexiness got beyond this stage, Attraction probably led quickly to copulation, because the imperative back then had nothing to do with social niceties, it had to do with increasing the population. Period. In our modern era, sexual attraction is more complicated. If my busty gazelle-legged woman has a voice like a screech owl, is vain beyond description, and spends all her time putting everyone else down.......I'm quickly turned OFF. In my case, my SECONDARY criteria for sexiness must be met for the attraction to continue
[Aside. Most honest men are pretty basic creatures when it comes to sexual attraction. Whether said in words (to a male companion) or said to oneself, first thought is "wow! I'd love to screw THAT!" The coarse language is needed here to capture the thought--that's how 'basic' it is!
Women who've discussed this topic with me are much more sophisticated. Where men just want to 'get in there', women's sexual triggers, even initially, seem more long-term. Part of what turns them on sexually is an ineffable sense that this guy would be a good father, will stick by them, will be a true mate, physically, emotionally, and functionally. ] End of aside
Okay, back to secondary criteria of sexiness. 2] smile and openness. For me, a woman's smile reveals her spirit. An open, genuine, frequent smile signals a woman confident within herself and openly interested in the people around her. She needn't be full of confidence, but to keep my interest she must be CURIOUS and eager to know more.....about everything. These qualities give heart and spirit to all those breasts and long legs................