Why men and women are reluctant to accept that there are some genuine gender differences when it comes to approaching life?
More often than not disputes in relationships are the result of one person being disappointed that their mate (didn't automatically) see, feel, or think the way they do.
Having unrealistic expectations that everyone thinks the same way or values the same things is a major source of friction.
For example in the movie: "The Breakup". Jennifer Aniston argues with Vince Vaughn regarding washing dishes. Eventually he agrees to wash them next time. Her reply is:
"I don't want you to wash the dishes! I want you to (want) to wash the dishes!"
In other words getting what she asked for is not the solution! She wants him to think like her so she doesn't have to ask him!
She wants it to be (his) idea!
Oftentimes we sing about the importance of "communication" and asking for what we want. However the reality is in many instances people feel like they shouldn't have to ask!
Therefore even when they get what they ask for they still feel bitter.:)
Maybe it's the having to (ask) that destroys the notion of "soul-mates".