Do you think it would cause a problem in the marriage?
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This^ I have treasured friends in both genders as does my husband.
Is it always about one person being "right" and another person being "wrong"? Could it be he just has a different relationship philosophy then your own? This would simply mean (he) is not "the one" for you? Another lady may agree with him!
In this case, if a person wouldn't trust me enough and would deny me having friends of an opposite gender, then yes he's wrong. Wrong for me and wrong in general. I don't need anyone that would manipulate or control me. I wouldn't do it to him.
Isn't he just wrong for (you)? If there are women who share his same feelings about this and he got with one of them. They'd be a match made in heaven! Trying to change/manipulate someone is wrong. Finding someone who agrees with us is the goal!
I suppose if two distrusting insecure people got together they could be a good match, but for me, red flags would go up if someone was willing to destroy their friendships and also insisting I leave mine. Red flags to me, but to each their own
Christin, You're killing me! LOL!
Deep down you have to know not everyone is going to be a perfect match. However instead of saying they're "right" or "wrong" our search should focus on "agree" and "disagree". People who agree are much happier!
We're all entitled to our opinions dashing, my opinion is a person that would leave friendships or expect others to has loyalty that is at best questionable. As I said - to each their own, agreeing doesn't mean it's right or healthy
All I'm saying is the ultimate definition of a soul-mate is finding someone who shares (your) same values! As you said "to each their own". That's my philosophy! If someone doesn't agree with us on a key issue it means they're not right for (us)!
Wow, I give men more credit than that. My male friends that I am close to have never come on to me sexually and just like the benefit of a female perspective other than their wife's. I've never sought sex with a male friend either, hubby is my BF.
A lot of guys believe if a woman initiated a kiss or flirted with a male friend they don't believe he would push her away and say: "We're friends! I don't want to mess that up!" Some women have admitted knowing their male friends would go for it!
Perhaps I've chosen my friends a little more wisely? lol I don't like generalities that "all" men or women would or wouldn't do something. I think we should judge people by their character, not their gender. Maybe I'm naive, so be it.
That's why generally speaking I'm careful to use terms like "a lot of" or "some". I hate gender generalizations that include (all or always) :-)
Christin, there is always a way to test your theory. Clearly I don't know you or your male friends, so it's safe for me to generalize. I think we can both agree that there is a certain line of friendship that can be crossed.
So only "ugly" girls are allowed to have male friends? wow, so glad we have men around to keep us in control and in line, we sure wouldn't be able to do that for ourselves, especially if we aren't ugly enough... sigh.