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Sincerely I'm not agree with your best answer. When two people are married they have to discuss problems and to correct themselves and to be together at good and bad moments. The solution is not to split but to correct and discuss when problemsAppear
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Really? A psychic know it all? You call it fear, I call it smarts. This is America, and it takes all kinds.
If I try again, you gonna help pick up the pieces?
I agree with antonio21. When divorce happens,one forgets why they married the person in the first place. To make things worse,it is making a promise. Breaking a promise six times merely shows you are not trustworthy. Counseling is recommended.
The player is a good actor capable of hiding a part of themselves thinking it wont be revealed this time. Only to realize even in saying I do, they have a problem saying no. So the old man creeps back in ruining any new relationship.
"The basic problem is the person doesn't know what marriage really is.." Just because someone is divorced doesn't mean (they) filed for it or wanted it. Maybe their spouses didn't know what marriage is....
HE is the problem. There's a reason this guy has been divorced so many times and it is NOT because he is an optimist or a hopeless romantic. It's because he can't commit and is always looking for the next Mrs. Dumbass. There's a running theme: HIM!
hmmmm......per the tone of 2 comments....someone here is very VERY bitter. 2 people involved = 2 people responsible = 2 independent choices & personalities. Can't change the equations.
This answer is much too general as well as too simplistic. Marriage may seem "right" for 2 people at a certain time. Time marches on and much occurs & changes and that includes individuals. Dissolving a contract is not the end, but a new begini
The effect of divorce on children is devastating. Scott Peck wrote in The Road Less Travelled that love is an active verb. I am divorced and I would advise - look before you leap. It would prevent a lot of heartbreak.
Most people think that when a person has the same pattern with the relationships. It is a habit we created in our brain. We keep getting the same kind of person.Because of getting the same person . Most of us fail. It is better to get someone differ
Staying in an abusive situation is never a good thing. Be happy you were strong enough to say no and live to be 60 yrs old.
At least you admit you're applying a double standard. According to statistics in the U.S. (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings in the U.S. The friend of mistresses worn them "The husband never leaves his wife.":)
Ask who filed?
I agree Mark, I've been divorced 4x's & my ego can cleverly & entertainingly explain y NONE of my divorces were my fault, heck I only asked 4 the 1st one after 12 yrs of mental/emotional/physical abuse, don't want 2 marry again but want life
Wow. Two perfect examples of why this woman should RUN in the opposite direction. Chronic quitters, blaming others for you actions, problems, and inability to commit. Problem is, there's only one common denominator in the equation..YOU! Grow up!
Very true. Everyone is assuming (this person) wanted or initiated all three divorces! Sometimes it's a matter of choosing the wrong mate. In other instances their mate may have cheated or abused them. It only takes one person to end a marriage.
I agree with exam theory. I took a class once, and had to retake and still failed it the 2nd time. I just could not understand the professors thought processes whatsoever. Or, it could be that Economics just sucks. LOL
It could also mean they keep choosing the wrong mates for themselves! Just because a person is divorced doesn't mean (they) initiated it. No one keeps saying "I do" unless they really want to be married. Divorce is costly.
"A relationship takes two to make..." - Very true.
However it only takes one to end it. People seem to assume this person initiated the filing of all their divorces. Anyone who marries that many times wants to be married.
Lot's of people assume that this individual initiated the divorce. It's also possible that (their spouse) left them, cheated on them, or was abusive.
I didn't assume anything you mentioned, and regardless of who divorced who, there are still 3 divorces which shows a pattern. Because the only thing the 3 divorces has in common, is that one person. So obviously that person is at fault somehow
I didn't say (you) made any assumption. You said: "The person is obviously not interested in sustaining a one on one relationship.."
If they didn't file for these divorces & continue to want to be married (they're interested in sustaining)!
It is also quite possible that the person's only problem is choosing the wrong partner. Some women I've known are desperate to always be in a relationship, even if it is an unhealthy or abusive one.
N.P-Choosing 3 wrong partners is a pattern too People choose people to help them with the end result-which in this case is divorce. The person is very obviously at fault
Dashing Scorpio I apologize
It take two to make a marriage work. It only takes one to cause a divorce.
You are assuming that this individual filed for the divorce or wanted to be divorced. Maybe it was their spouse who pushed for it. Their spouse may have cheated/abusve
I love the way you see clearly through your experience. abuse destroys the basic tools that helps us know ourselves and choose the right people and situations we deal with. God bless you. Right relationship before marriage.
The definition of marriage is two people who love each other and agree to monogamy. They decide to help each other grow and look forward to growing old together not alone in a nursing home. That being said, marriage is not for polygamists of course!
Sounds like you are too nice and so they try to brainwash you or pick apart your friends or where you go. Tell them to get a life. And if you have kids and the person doesn't like them, get rid of him/her. Your kids know if someone is bad.
I got married when I was 17. Became a mother at 18 and a widow at 19, so I don't believe in marriage. Never remarried and never will. (I get the bed all to myself! :] }
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