How to Move On in Your Past Relationship?

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   Shiela De Guzmanposted 8 years ago

   How to Move On in Your Past Relationship?
   
   I just want to help my friend but I don't know how?

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   cperuzziposted 8 years ago

   There are people who make fun of this and say the obvious answer as in "You just move on."
   
   I recognize your pain and know that sometimes it's really hard. It's almost like an addiction to the last person you've been with.  When that's removed, it's hard to see life the same.  You've been changed on many fundamental levels (depending on how long the relationship lasted).  Ask any widow or widower - it's hard to think of spending time with another person.
   
   First of all, you should give yourself some time to heal.  Do what you have to do.  Get out and do something different to break the patterns you've been in.  If you feel best to grieve on your own, then do that - just don't do it too long. 
   
   I would suggest a harmless date after some time - to prove that you can still have some fun.  If you can go through the evening without mentioning your former partner, you're on the road to recovery.  Spend time with your friends.  You'll know when it's time to get back on the horse and ride again.
   
   Don't rush yourself.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   The hardest part about moving on is letting go.
   The only thing you can do is point out some key realities.
   Unless your friend is ready to stop "romanticizing the past" and (accept the fact that it's over) without holding out hope for a reconciliation they won't be able to move on. 
   In order for him/her to be "the one" they would have to see (you) as being "the one". At the very least a soul-mate is someone who actually wants to be with you!
   "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
   - Oscar Wilde
   If someone doesn't want to be with you or they mistreat you it's clear they don't think you're all that "special".
   “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” — unknown
   Thankfully we live on a planet with over 7 Billion people on it! That man/woman you feel you can't live without just know this; there are billions of people doing exactly that every single day!
   In fact (you) use to be one of them before you met him/her!
   “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.” – unknown
   Take down your rear view mirror. Your future lies ahead of you.
   Every ending is a new beginning!

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