If love and respect are not the most important aspects of a relationship, then there is no relationship. My wife and I have been married 35 years. She worked as a teacher in the Catholic school system--low pay. I was a reporter for 12 years--low pay and moved into public relations—better pay. We both have BA degrees. We adopted our son, who came with a host of issues caused by his birth mother not realizing she was pregnant and doing everything wrong that a woman can do in the first trimester. I had a near-death experience, experience,near-death experience,near-death experience,and have faced a dozen surgeries in the past 15 years, some out-patient with little risk, some in the hospital with a higher risk.
It was my wife's love and devotion to our marriage that kept us together, even after I lost my last job of 23 years at age 59 and could not find work or buy insurance because of my age and prior health. The ACA solved the insurance issue. I was expecting to work untilI was 62, retire, and continue havingaccess tothe company's grouppolicy, as has been the practice. It did not work out that way. I wantedto take my wife to Paris and Rome. Unless I winthe lottery (I buy a lottery ticket about 3 times a year) that is not going to happen. Regardless, our marrage will continue and grow even stronger.