Yesterday I asked a question why women date bay boys, when they can date cool guys? A response I got is that nice guys don't posses cool guy quality, while bad boys better match. Having live in Asia for a long time, here, there never lack nice, responsible & smart guys, who are also cool, tough, confident, edgy, charming and smooth, but now think back to the west, it do seem, most nice guys in the west, don't have these qualities (although small majority do, eg Barack Obama is like this super cool President.) But why are most nice, smart, responsible men from western culture lame?
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In ur opinion why u think, in west, most women say "where all good men gone" and western girls living in Asia say "Western men are jerks"? :)
Because Western men are jerks. Not individuals, but the media portrayed men are jerks. For some reason Western men get it in their heads that they deserve what women have. That they're gypped if women don't like them because they think they're "nice"
They believe they are "nice" because they're following a "script" that advised them to say, do, or behave this way and (women) will melt in their arms. When it fails or they find themselves on the sidelines they get angry ala Elliot Rodger
Interesting, do u think, we could suspect, most so call nice guys are western conservatives&bad boys are liberals. conservative follow traditional moral view blindly, even if its wrong, liberal are progressive thinker & rebel if the code is w
To ensure we are on the same page, the type you see as "bad boys" are they bad people or maybe e.g. not Christians or something else?
When I say "bad boys" I mean the type of guy that girls go after. Most of the bad boys are really good people, which is why women prefer them over nice guys, who end up treating women badly. It's hard to explain, I think.
So, in your opinion, why culture label them as "bad boys" if they are not really bad people?
I think it's other men, not the culture as a whole. The guys that call themselves nice tend to be manipulative and guilt trip women, where the men they call bad are actually nice and respectful and understanding.
this remind me of this post I wrote https://hubpages.com/politics/Why-is-the-western-v... tell me what u think :)
I agree with some of it, especially the racism aspect of it. But I'm not sure about the alpha male thing. And, at least in my experience, for every guy that treated me badly, there were 5 that treated me well. The bad ones just give others a bad name
Interesting, westerners in Asia find Asians(especially Confucius-less&Buddhist)rebellious&nonconformist(eg unlike west whom put up with corrupt dark age gov, Asians quickly rebel against bad authority)but otherwise, they are respectful&re
It's pretty difficult to argue about which nation has the most rebellious people especially when the U.S. has the highest incarceration rate in the world! In fact this country was founded on rebellion. Lots of non conformists!
True, although many historians say, rebellion nature of 17th century west, was Asian influence. In Asia when authority is corrupt, especially Kings, people rebel and form a new nation. Prior to contact with Asia, westerns put up with corrupt monarchs