I'm going to start a novel (November is National Novel Writing Month- nanowrmo). What, besides the expected answer of "more time in bed", so to speak, would DAZZLE you out of a swirling whirlpool of falling in love with another women.(Wives this is only an IMAGINARY question). My character needs to win her husband back. Please don't write a philosophical comment about having chosen the wrong partner in the first place, etc. I'm looking for serious ways that women get their husbands back. Pls think about physical, emotional, financial, social kinds of changes a wife could make. Cheers, Billie
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It begs the question: Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? In order for him to be "the one" he'd have to see (you) as being the one! At the very least a "soul-mate" is someone who actually wants to be with you!
Dr. Scott Halzman Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association wrote and speaks on "The Secrets on Surviving Infidelity". It is his view, and mine, that often affairs happen "in relatively good marriages" and ALMOST accidentally.
"Accidentally"? At some point two people exchanged contact information, had discussions, met secretly for dates, held hands, embraced, kissed, and (chose to have sex).
An accident would be a mistake in identity.
I thought you were my wife! :-)
Thanks, John. I have the character subtly putting up old pictures, talking about their history together, reminiscing. The hardest part of doing that is the pain when it happens. I know this sounds futile, but I'm convinced this is not impossible.
certainly not impossible. Good luck.
"if deep down he still loves her..she can win him back."
- Excellent point!
That's a big (if)! In the U.S. (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings. Mistresses are warned husbands never leave their wives. If he's gone it's serious!
Thanks word55. I'll see if my character can do that. The setting is about 1985 before Viagra :) I was looking for some things that got to the psyche of the husband, but of course, the physical probably opens the door to the psyche :) !
I'm not sure how many men would actually leave their wives if sex was the only issue. I imagine most would be content with cheating as opposed to moving out of their home into an apt. filing for divorce, paying child support, being a weekend dad
We all get it, Dashing! The wife didn't fulfill her husbands needs. She failed. She recognizes her selfishness. Mea Culpa. THIS character iin THIS book recognizes WHERE her husband's angst comes from and chnages it up because much is at stake.
Billie, Sometimes it's (him) and not her!
I know that's an old cliché but people have been known to gradually grow apart. The wife may have kept doing all the things he once loved but he is now discontent or wants someone unlike her!