I got pregnant after dating a guy for 2 months (I've never been able to take birth control due to my autoimmunity). I notified the father, who was very descent about things and offered to pay for an abortion. I don't believe in abortion, took full responsibility for my actions, had 1 child already, and told him that I would raise the baby on my own. I wanted no child support or any help because that gives the unreliable father rights and could have ended up in a custody battle. After meeting and marrying the man of my dreams when I was 6 months pregnant, he went into delivery with me, has raised my son as his "DAD", and adopted him. I didn't even put a father's name on the birth certificate and later his "dad"/my husband was added to the birth certificate as his biological father. All we had to do was fill out a "Voluntary Acknowledgement of Paternity" and he has complete rights as his real father/dad. No adoption proceedings what so ever. My choice in the matter has worked out wonderful for me, my child, and my husband. Who needs a sperm donor, jerk biological father, or an ass in court over a child. It only hurts you and the baby. All either of you need is someone who loves you both and willing to be a "DAD". I do realize of course, that I was very fortunate but thought you might benefit from my history with this kind of situation.